OK, it might not change your whole life straight away, but you have to start somewhere, right?

I just spent the last 4 weeks mainly unmotivated to write down a single sentence, struggling through work every day and just basically hoping for bed time to come around, so I would no longer have to think of every day things.

If nothing changes, nothing changes

This sentence, I hear it a lot from my lovely coach. And she is totally right. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is the definition of Insanity.

So let’s do something different, anything.

I have started thinking and speaking to myself a list of things I am grateful for, every morning, before I go to work. And that includes work, even though I don’t particularly like going to work or the whole 9-5 life, I’m grateful that I have an income that pays for my roof over my head and the (mostly) healthy food I love. I’m grateful for a lot of people at work, that are nice to be around, even though there’s a few douche bags.

So the Idea is to see the positives rather than the negatives in everyday life.

Last week my car broke down on my Birthday… now that could have been a catastrophe. And I admit I had a little breakdown. But I’m grateful for the colleague that gave me a lift to work and back that day and the day after, and for the one sitting me down and talking to me, while I was breaking down, telling me everything was going to be OK. And guess what? Everything ended up being OK, my car got fixed, I turned a year older and didn’t die and I couldn’t stop my phone from beeping, because I got so many birthday messages, after thinking that morning, that I didn’t have anyone. Funny isn’t it?

Research positive thinking

I used to read a lot, but haven’t had the time in the past few years, or so I thought. Turns out, I chose to not have the time. So now that there’s a choice I get to choose to buy a book and reading that or scrolling through social media. Guess what I used to do all that time when I “didn’t” have time? Yep! I’m not getting caught up scrolling as much anymore, I still do it, it’s highly addictive, as we all know.

But I’ve started buying books, mainly e-books because I don’t want to accumulate a lot of stuff, and taking and making time to read. Now I didn’t just go out and get random books, at the moment I’m diving deeply into self development and of course want to read about all the different takes people have on that. It’s pretty amazing because a few years ago I probably wouldn’t have even thought about picking up a book that talks about how I have to work on myself.

Even If you don’t want to start full on with a 500 pages book, just start researching things on the internet, the info is literally at your fingertips. And if you’re reading this, chances are you googled something along the lines of improving your situation.

Examples of changes

Changes I have encountered on my very early journey into self development and self-love is, that I’m a lot more responsible for my own Stories and my own Bullshit. One major thing that helped me to get out of a really hopeless and sad and angry place is the fact that NOTHING someone else says or does has ANYTHING to do with me and EVERYTHING to do with them. Of course, if it triggers me, then I have to look into it, but the person themselves don’t have a clue about that.

So I’ve changed my routines. I’ve started going for a walk in the park instead of sitting inside, even if it’s just 15 minutes and even if it’s cold or raining. I’ve started getting up early, even though I don’t have to leave for work until 2 hours later, so I have time to do things, like this morning, I wrote this post after I had a cup of cacao, did some yoga and cleaned my bedroom. And I didn’t dread any of those things, I enjoyed every single minute of my morning, and now I can go to work knowing, that I’ve already been productive and have taken time to do things I want to do, that way work is not in the way of my life, it just fits in perfectly fine.

Keeping it up

Now here’s the downfall. It’s all amazing while you’re doing it, but what do you do, if you get out of your new positive routine? I know it sucks, but you start again. Cut yourself some slack, after all you are meant to enjoy this. And the good thing is, that you can feel it instantly, so it’s easy to get back into it.

The point of it all

It’s all about you. You are the only person you have control over, no one else, simple. So instead of worrying about what others think or how situations around you could play out, you get to focus on only yourself and let go of all things you can’t control. It’s kinda scary. But it feels sooooo much lighter!

And yes, you’ll fall back into your old habits and feel shit, but once you are aware, you can do something about it, change how you feel about a situation, a day, a person and your life. And trust me, life is so much more enjoyable, when you look at your blessings and especially see the blessings in things that you previously thought were “bad”.

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